Choosing a name for your baby

Apart from life itself, a name is perhaps the most precious thing you will give to your baby. Sociologists, baby experts, and teachers agree that your child’s name impacts on his or her personality, baby’s ability to interact with his or her peers, and how total strangers see he or her. Here are a few elements you should take into account when choosing your baby’s name.

Uniqueness: The current fashion is to give a baby an unusual name or a traditional name with different spelling so that she stands out from the crowd. A friend has a daughter called Emily. At school there are two other Emilys in the class, so she is known as Emily T. It was a year before the little girl understood that her name was Emily and not Emily T! So it is easy to understand the temptation to go for a name that’s different.

However, there can be problems too: the name will be misspelled and mispronounced. “My name is Elvira, but children and teachers would make it Elmira, Olivia, Alvera …I soon learned to come to whatever sounded like my name”, said Elvira Bates. Only my mother and husband get it right!.

Sound and Compatibility: Someone suggested that, before you finally decide on a name, you go into the garden and shout the name five times to see how it sounds! A bit drastic maybe, but it is essential to ensure the name sounds right.

The general advice is to avoid a name that ends in a vowel if the last name starts with a vowel – the names tend to run together. Also, if the surname is long, choose a short first name, or vice versa.

And please avoid the puns. Once, when I was in a hospital, there was a nurse with the name Rosie Bottom! (If you are reading this in the USA, Canada, or anywhere but in the UK, you may be wondering why that should be amusing – well, it translates as ‘Rosie Butt’!) Of course, the patients found the name funny, and I suppose anything that cheers up the patients has to be beneficial, but what were her parents thinking of when they named her?

Initials: Obvious really, except some people miss this one. Spell out the initials of the first, middle and last names to see if that makes a word.

Finally, consider whether the name suits a grown-up as well as a child.

Are you ready to be a father?

Getting married and having children is the way of life for all of us. Is the question – are we ready to get married and after that are we prepared to become a father? Why this question? Let us discuss.

Most of us are not always ready to get married. We are waiting for the right partner. We have career and money issues. We have emotional problems. We don’t want to get married in a hurry and then break up. We, therefore, weigh all the options and wait for the opportune time. Only after we are satisfied, we get married. Am I correct?

Becoming a father is equally tricky. Before becoming a father, you have to make sure that your wife is ready to become a mother. That both of you have settled into the marriage and don’t foresee many problems ahead. Your career has picked up, and you are saving money. You have a good home, and you are otherwise free of problems. Only after satisfying yourself about all these, can you think of becoming a father?

Fatherhood involves many issues. As soon as you get a child, you will find that your wife is paying more attention to her child than to you. Your nights will not be as peaceful as before. Visits to doctors may increase. Vacationing may become difficult and partying may have to be cut. There are many such changes that a new child brings along with a lot of joy. Please think about the pros and cons before deciding to become a father. Your child should never suffer because of your frustrations. Your kid will be your most precious possession. Think carefully and decide.